1) Apologies. In the uncommon event of a person being substantially upset by another's actions during these Safer Space's Business, they are upset if they say they are. An apology is then mandatory, insofar as refusing to apologize for badly hurt feelings is not friendly, regardless of whether what happened was deliberate. If you feel you can't contain your anger much longer during Safer Space business, simply walk away. Calling "SafeOut. I must be left alone now." is probably your shortest path out if anyone follows your exit. If one's upsetness causes one to be nasty during Safer Space business, one is oneself always among those in the wrong. If someone is upset is over entirely allowed icebreaker game actions (he wiped me out! they ganged up on me, so it wasn't fair!), we will gently explain that participating entails consenting to such game actions whenever carried out friendlily. People who really can't take harmless game actions even in Safer Space Icebreaker Events and Games should probably not participate - we do have other safer spaces that do entirely different activities. In these Safer Spaces, apologies entail giving back any objects, positions, getting ahead in a game, wins, titles, spoils, or anything else of tangible benefit that was obtained by means of deliberate unfriendly action, or by means that had as a side-effect, intended or otherwise, of causing substantial subset.

2) Given that our rule is "A person is Upset if they say they are, and Without Having to Say Why. Apologies are expected, as are Non-repeats of what caused it", apologizing includes agreeing to take steps to ensure that you are not involved in repeats of what caused the upset (or vaguely similar upsets). In more upsetting or problematic cases, this may include someone gaining awareness of a Safer Space populace that they have been, or been perceived to be, prejudicial about, as well as reading the Safer Space Rules more thorougly and reflectively than in a casual first reading. It may also involve the upset person declaring personal boundaries that the person who caused the upset (or possibly all members doing the activity in question) are to respect.

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There is no reason any of the below should apply to any person who a) genuinely joins these Safer Spaces for their intended purposes, b) reads and abides by the Serious Rules and c) respects ensuring no repeats of upsetting things.

3) While many Safer Space activities are such that it is very unlikely for someone to seriously breach the Serious Rules, it is better to be safe than sorry, so we give fair indication of what could or definitely would incur a ban from our activities. The main point of these Safer Spaces is that these are a Friendly and Safe Environment, and this requires saying No to any person who is seriously, repeatedly or remorselessly unfriendly or irresponsible in our activities or the organizing of them. Any such will be required to leave our Safer Spaces. A fair proportion of such actions can additionally lead to the perpetrator getting in trouble with the authorities.

For the wellbeing of our organizers and of all our other participants, we reserve the right to be free from any individual that misconducts themself thus, by requiring them to leave these Safer Spaces. We also reserve the right not to admit any such individual in the first place. That applies in particular to bullies or stalkers who don't just cause someone to quit a society/social group but that also then follow them to each subsequent society/social group that person then associates with. The buck stops here.

No organizers are to turn a blind eye to such things, nor being clueless about, or spineless toward, what is covered by "covert bullying", "insider bullying", "individuals of whatever gender bullying individuals of whatever other gender" "wrecking", "stalking", "isolating", "gaslighting", "monopolizing", "mobbing"... Whether or not with 'cyber-' used as a prefix to 'pretend it's not so bad, or new'. A bully is a bully, regardless of how good they are at hiding it, regardless of whether the aggressions and abuses they peddle in are physical, emotional or social (ostracizing, causing fights/fallouts between people etc) and regardless of whether they do it in person or online. No deliberate Outings, no pressuring someone to be Out; these things include anonymity for those requiring that. No erasory statements about any kind of Safer Space person. We're not having any individual doing any of that at any of our Safer Space Activities, or as any part of organizing those.

4) Particulars relevant to these Safer Spaces are as follows.

Being very energetic in our activities gives one no more right to stay in a game after receiving two yellows or one red.

Anybody who, during our activities, causes the police to get involved or who use physical violence or threats thereof, will be banned. This is is obviously entirely different from Safer Space Custodians calling the police to free ourselves of a banned person attempting to crash, stalk, spy on, infiltrate, or be menacing outside of, a Safer Space Activity of ours. Though we note that the latter situation remains for now a hypothetical possibility, nor has anything we've had sole jurisdiction over the safety and security rules for ever involved the police or an instance of physical violence. Nor at present are we willing to co-run anything with non-Safer Space people, so everything that we currently offer has a track record of zero occurrences of anything in this paragraph.

Aside from refraining from doing things that inconvenience the authorities or the public, any cautions thus incurred may, or may be obliged to, source further serious rules so as to avoid repeats. Official complaints about a participant's behaviour will almost certainly result in banning. [This can include risking trouble by deliberately supplying a false room address.]

Further serious rules can also of course be put forward by members of the society.

Bans are also likely for anybody doing repeats of any of: verbal abuse, shouting at people, receiving official complaints from Fellows, Porters or College/University Disciplinary Staff, or sufficiently complaints from passers-by, refusing to apologize for real-life-upsetting behaviour, or looking to exclude any would-be participant other than due to this disclaimer's terms or ethos. It is possible for bad enough versions of these "yellow card" offenses to be given the straight red card of a ban.

5) Safer Space participants are not allowed to: lie about occurences during Safer Space Business to the Safer Space Management. Or to impersonate Safer Space Management, University Staff, or the Police. Or ignore a SafeOut.

If the context or consequences of any such lies or ignored SafeOuts are deemed serious enough, they are technically sufficient for a ban.

We also have the right to deem whatever combination we see fit of "being a serious rules breaker and somebody who lied to the Safer Space Managment about serious rules issues" as bannable.

Not having read or understood the rules is never a valid excuse for violating the serious rules.

Finally, this Disclaimer does not exhautively list all possible ways of getting banned; that said, we've very seldom had to tell anyone that they are banned.

6) The Safer Space Management reserves the right to remove any participant or organizer in repeated or large breach of the Safer Spaces' serious rules.

Somebody can only be banned for breaking serious rules.

The final interpretation of the Safer Space Rules - including this Disclaimer itself - lies with the Safer Spaces Management.

7) There is no right of appeal against bans.

If someone is banned and would like to be part again, the procedure is that you just leave our societal activities alone till the next term, and then politely ask whether you could rejoin, whilst being fully understanding if that term's Organizers/Safer Space Management say no.

A banned individual acting substantially otherwise is simply giving us genuine cause to continue to ban them.

Any banned individual who were to persist on mistreating our organizers or trashing our activities would be, plainly, a real life nuisance person unconsentingly trashing one of Cambridge's societies, and an openly-declared safer space and welfare society at that, and may well be treated as a such, eg by us contacting the police, the plodge or the person's Dean.

8) Because they protect a much needed Safer Space Service, membership of which is, for those who need it, lifelong, the Serious Rules and Disclaimer are, in a particular sense, Immutable. (More precisely, new participant or new organizer requests or further Awarenesses gained can of course add further Conduct and Safer Space rules, but existing Conduct and Safer Space rules can never be removed from, or be weakened in, our rulesets.) We are a Guarantee of Shelter, and some of us don't have any other reunions we at all feel safe to go to. The Safer Space Management retain the right for parts of the Serious Rules to be absent from Public Space, all the better to protect ourselves in whatever climes. If ever under attack from anyone who means us harm, we reserve the right to use measures from our peoples' other Disclaimers, or from our peoples' ways outside of what we declare on public spaces. Nor does anybody who wasn't a substantial and informed part of writing our Safer Space Rules and Disclaimer have any right whatsoever to pin their own interpretation on what our Safer Space Rules and Disclaimer mean (see sentence 3 of Disclaimer item 5). Anybody who badly or repeatedly breaks our Safer Space and/or Disclaimer Rules and additionally cannot accept that these Rules mean what the Safer Space people who wrote them say they mean, will remain banned.

While it is not all we are, we are foremost places of respite for vulnerable people, and so we will take any attacks on our Safer Space activities or our Custodians around as seriously as attacks on medical personnel, JCR reps or college tutors.

Evoking this Safer Space to excuse one's actions is never comensurate with those actions being illegal, or highly disreputable (defined free of any political bias or connotations).

Definitions : In this Disclaimer, 'our Safer Spaces' refers to CakeFaeries Safer Spaces, presently consisting of The CakeFaeries (Bakey, Scouty, Silly, Hunty, Duelly and Listeny), where Duelly is alias Cambridge Safer Spaces Waterfighting, Sheila and her Dog is another name for Silly, and Hunty is a.k.a. Cambridge Cakefaeries' Cooperative Scavenger Hunt, and GIVEN by CakeFaeries (General-Purpose (In)Visibility and Education Network is an alias for Listeny CakeFaeries.

'Safer Space Business' refers to 'Safer Space Activities' -the Events and Icebreakers these run - alongside also their organizing.

'Safer Space Custodians, or anyone appointed by them as part of investigating breaches of these Safer Spaces' Serious Rules' are called `the Safer Space Management'

Disclaimer A We are specifically an apolitical space, rather than any kind of politicized space.

Disclaimer B We are not, and never have been a student society at Cambridge University.

We are, rather, a tolerant society in Cambridge (the city).

B.1) One salient difference between these two things is that we are in no way associated with Cambridge University. Or for that matter with any other university, or college or department subset thereof. Most of what we run is in the geographical location of Cambridge. However we only meet off university property. As such our society meetings are unrelated to any university, or college or department subset thereof. As such, our society meetings lie outside the scope of any appointees, representatives, regulators, or officials of (in each case) universities.

B.2) Another salient difference is that we treat members of Cambridge's other university - Anglia Ruskin University - exactly the same as members of Cambridge University, and likewise with alumns of either. Our activities are for people of at least university age, on the grounds that the legal situation would be different elsewise. Our activities are furthermore in no way restricted against those who are no longer at university. Nor are they in any way restricted against those that are no longer undergraduates, or some other 'elsewhere approved' list of 'types of student'. Item B.2) is what we mean in saying that we are a tolerantly-run society rather than a student society.

B.3) To be explicit, we are not registered with the university or student union.

B.4) What we do is exercise our freedom of association, by meeting off university property, lawfully, for entirely peaceful purposes, and abiding within COVID regulations. This includes meeting not more than 2 at a time when required and not more than 6 at a time when required. We have never even vaguely come close to having meetings involving person numbers that require informing local authorities of a planned gathering under non-pandemic legislation.

B.5) To be clear, we do icebreakers and relaxation. We do not run debates, give seminars or invite speakers. We are entirely unofficial, and our meetings are neither on university premises nor in any way registered with any university, college or department.

History : We acknowledge between 30 and 150 people, most of whom have had quite enough of adult bullying problems in other clubs with an activity that is 'similar' to one of ours but which are not run as Safer Spaces, for the changes here relative to previous such publicly exhibited rulesets.